It might go like this:
If only I could lose weight, then I’d feel better
If only I could make more money, then I’d be happy
If only my mother/father/sister/brother would accept or understand me, then I’d feel worthy
If only I had more clients, then I’d feel successful
This is giving your power away. It’s saying that you can’t be happy or feel good or worthy or successful unless a specific thing happens.
A better question to ask would be “how can I feel good/happy/worthy now, even though this situation is not as I want it to be?”
Once you are able to make that shift in thinking, you take your power back. You stop being at the mercy of another person or situation. You acknowledge that the situation is not as you’d like it to be, but you also acknowledge that you have the power and ability to feel good now.
This has the power to change everything because you’re not letting another person or situation hold you back in any way. You still acknowledge that you would like change, and this shift actually allows for the possibility that the change you want can happen – much more effectively than before.
Action Step: I invite you to try this out for the next week. Identify the situations where you are stuck in “if only…” and change the thought to “how can I… (as outlined above).” Pay attention to how it feels to do this, and notice any changes that occur throughout the week.
This affirmation will help:
I release the need or desire to give my power away to any other person or situation. I no longer need to wait for something else to happen before I can feel good about myself.
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