So what? Are you your worst critic? How good are you at beating yourself up? I’m very good at it and, although I’m so much better than I used to be (because I’ve been working a lot on it) the tendency is still there, particularly with certain things.
When something happens that you don’t like and that you can’t seem to control, it can trigger fear that comes from the belief of not being good enough. Then you may find yourself continually focusing on something you don’t want to be focusing on.
When this happens it’s important to turn your thinking around before you get sucked into a downward spiral of negative and unhelpful thinking. I have found that these 2 words, ‘ so what?’ can help me do just that. Let me share a couple of examples so you can see what I mean.
I’m playing a tennis match and my opponent is much younger, fitter and faster than me. This creates anxiety in me and becomes my focus – which means that I don’t play as well as I could because I’m focused more on my opponent. So now my mantra becomes ‘so what?’ So what if she’s younger, fitter and faster than me? I have my own set of skills and abilities and if I don’t focus on hers but focus on mine instead, then I can relax and play to the best of my ability – and actually enjoy the match.
I’m trying on an item of clothing and notice that it’s tighter than it was last time I wore it, or perhaps it doesn’t fit at all. This has the potential to pull me into a downward spiral of complaining about my body and how I never seem to be able to lose the weight I want, etc., etc. Instead, I now say ‘so what?’ So what if it doesn’t fit? I’ll find something else that does and get on with my day.
This doesn’t mean that I ignore what’s happening and don’t try to do something about it. For me, ‘so what?’ doesn’t mean I don’t care. It means I’m not going to let that situation control me in that moment and lower my vibration.
Give it a try and see if it can help you maintain a higher, more desirable vibration.