If you’re in that situation, here are some suggestions that can help:
Recognize that there really is no ‘wrong’ decision. It’s simply that each choice can bring a different set of circumstances.
- Stop worrying about what might happen. We’re really good at making up stories about what could happen, but there’s no way you can know. You can do your research and be as prepared as you can, but there really is no way to know exactly what will happen.
- Do your research. The best you can do is to be as informed as you can about each of the choices and what they will lead to. You cannot know every possible scenario, but you can gather the information and facts that are available, and perhaps talk to others to learn about their experiences. Make a list of pros and cons of each choice if that is helpful for you.
- Visualize. I find it can help to visualize yourself saying yes to each of your choices. Close your eyes and imagine yourself doing whatever each choice would entail, then pay attention to your body (not your mind, but your body). What does each scenario feel like to you? Often, this can give you clear information about the choice that is best for you.
- Embrace any fear. If you are afraid of making a choice or of making the wrong choice, take a really good look at the fear itself, and ask yourself “what am I really afraid of?” Usually, you’ll find that the answer that comes to you has nothing to do with the situation itself, but perhaps something that happened a long time ago. For example, perhaps your real fear is of looking foolish for making the wrong choice – this may relate back to something you did as a child where people made fun of you.
- Be at peace with your choice. Once you’ve made your choice, be at peace with it. Don’t second-guess yourself and wonder if you should have made a different choice. Embrace the choice that you have made, and feel good about it.
Try this affirmation: “I trust myself to make the choices that are best for me at the highest level.”