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Unstoppable Energy Tip

6/26/2019

Seeing things differently… Isn’t it interesting how sometimes we can only see a situation from one perspective – one that doesn’t feel good? I’ve had a couple of examples over the last week where I had been seeing things a particular way for several years. It didn’t feel good and I had been trying everything I could think of to do things differently, work around the problem, or even feel better about the problem.

Eventually, I got tired of hearing my inner voice complain about what I didn’t like and I decided to open myself up to new solutions. In both situations I found I was able to have a complete shift in perspective and see things in a very different way. These insights seemed impossible for me to see before.

How did I get there? I think the thing that helped the most was surrendering. I decided to let go of my expectations about how things should be and what should happen. Once I did that it was as if the blinders had been removed and I could see things differently.

It all seems very obvious now, and it’s hard to understand how I couldn’t see things this way before. In the work that I do I help people shift their perspective and let go all the time, but seeing your own stuff is much more difficult and takes a lot longer.

It’s a great example of how attachment to expectations can stop you seeing what’s right in front of you.

Action Step: Think of a situation you’ve been struggling with. Ask yourself if you can let go of your expectations around what should happen and how things should be. If you are willing, just let it all go and see what happens.

Let this Unstoppable Affirmation support you on your journey:
I am willing to let go of my expectations and I now open myself up to the highest and best possible solutions in all areas.

Be Unstoppable!

Linda

3 Comments

Elaine Stewart

6/27/2019 09:35:52 am

I would like to be healthier. How do I let go of the feelings that now that I’m nearly 71 and don’t move well that it’s age that’s stopping me and develop an action plan to be able to move better? I blame my age but I know if I exercised more I’d be in better shape. But exercise is difficult because I have numerous medical problems. How do I let go?

6/27/2019 09:37:38 am

I have to let go that I believe my age, 71, is causing all my difficulties. How do I let go?

Linda Binns link

6/27/2019 01:18:08 pm

Thank you for writing Elaine. I think first of all it starts with how you talk to yourself. Instead of focusing on what you can't do, acknowledge yourself for what you can do. Remind yourself that every day you are doing the best that you can and tell yourself that every day you're getting a little bit better, a little bit stronger.

Find some things that you enjoy doing and see if you can find someone to do them with - for example walking, or senior yoga, or chair yoga. Don't try to do too much. If the best you can do right now is walk to the end of the street and back, do that and celebrate the fact that you did that. Then the next day see if you can go just a little bit further.

As you focus more on what you CAN do, you start to be able to do a little more.

Tell yourself every day that you are willing to let go of the belief that your age affects your ability to move. I play tennis and there are people on my tennis team who are in their 70's, and there are people in their 80's I know who still play and they play and move very well. So it's not the number.

Perhaps your action plans in the past have been too much, and your expectations too high, which sets you up to fail. I have done this in the past.

Find a friend or even a personal trainer who can help you go at the speed that's right for you. There is a lady who is in her 80's whom I see at the gym every week with her trainer. When she first started she could barely do anything. I have noticed her getting a little stronger and doing a little more every time.

It takes time, it takes support - and most of all it takes you treating yourself with love and kindness and letting what you can do each day be enough. As you do this I'm sure your mind will kick in and keep telling you that you can't do it - that's ok. Acknowledge that this is a part of you that is attached to the belief that your age will stop you. You can say something like: "I recognize that this is old programming and conditioning that is telling me what I cannot do. I now choose to move beyond those old patterns and become stronger and healthier than I've ever been before."

I hope that helps, even a little bit.

Linda

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