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Unstoppable Energy Tip

2/13/2019

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Know when to withdraw your energy – You know what it’s like when you’re trying to explain something to someone and they refuse to believe you? Or when you want to help someone feel better, but they reject every suggestion you make? Really, any situation where you feel like you’re hitting your head against a brick wall and the harder you try to make the other person (or people) understand, the worse it gets?

I had a situation once where a person accused me of doing something that I did not do – in fact I would not do, but they told everyone that I did. The more I tried to explain to anyone that I didn’t in fact do what I was being accused of, the worse the situation became.

These are all situations where the best thing you can do is to withdraw your energy. This isn’t giving up, not at all. Rather it’s a recognition that you are wasting your energy in a futile attempt to make others understand something. The more energy you put into it, the more you feed their position. They become more entrenched and you become more depleted.

It can be really hard to withdraw energy like this, but in my situation I recognized that it was the only thing I could do. Once I did, the whole thing went away.

Another time I realized that I was putting a lot of energy into trying to help someone, who was complaining to me about a situation. I realized that she really didn’t want to be helped, she just wanted to complain. So I withdrew my energy, just listened and didn’t let myself get hooked into a discussion about her complaint. Once she realized I wasn’t going to get hooked, she moved onto something else.

You can easily become depleted by investing energy into something (or someone) that’s not going to change. The trick is to recognize it and know when to withdraw energy. You don’t necessarily have to withdraw yourself, only your energy.

Action Step: Think of a situation or a person that’s frustrating you right now. Consider withdrawing your energy (which includes your thoughts about it) and focusing on something else instead. Notice how you feel and how the situation changes as a result.

The following affirmation will help:

I release the need to invest my energy in people, things and situations that don’t serve me.

Be Unstoppable!

Linda

6 Comments
Maree Crosbie
2/14/2019 05:57:54 pm

Thank you Linda, I really needed to read this today and am withdrawing my energy from a couple of situations and I don't feel like I am giving up rather am looking after myself.

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Linda Binns link
2/14/2019 09:04:55 pm

So happy to hear that you're taking care of yourself by withdrawing your energy where you need to Maree. Thank you for sharing.

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Lillian Tsai link
2/18/2019 10:55:14 am

Thank you, Linda, for yet another actionable tip. Sometimes not saying anything is more powerful and settling than responding.

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Linda Binns link
2/18/2019 10:59:54 am

You're so right Lillian. I've had many experiences where difficult situations improved tremendously when I just stopped trying to make them better. Withdrawing energy is a more powerful tool than we think!

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SALEHA
2/19/2019 04:18:04 am

Thank you for this great tip. I will definitely apply it to my life. I do have a problem overthinking a malicious or vindictive situation as I cannot fathom why it happened in the first place. I need to learn how to change my thoughts so that negative people and situations do not consume me.

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Linda Binns link
2/19/2019 09:06:36 am

It's so easy to overthink those uncomfortable situations isn't it Saleha? When it's hard to understand why someone would behave in a certain way we tend to try to figure out what prompted it, what did we do to them? How and why would they act this way? And on and on. I certainly know what that's like and you're right, it does consume you. If you can catch your thoughts when they go in this direction and consciously change them to something more positive and supportive of you (and withdraw your energy from the person or situation) you'll notice a huge positive shift.

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