I had one of those days recently. It started when I showed up for an appointment only to be told they had no record of it – even though I had called the day before to confirm.
I did what I needed to do to sort things (without getting upset) out and rescheduled for another date.
Throughout the day I was aware that some of the interactions I was having with people were a little off. Later in the day I was with a group of people and was bewildered by the fact that some of them just seemed to want to disagree or argue with anything I said or did. I couldn’t understand why and when I voiced this out loud one of the people I was with said “Well you’re a coach aren’t you? You should be able to handle it.” I confess that part of me wanted to take offense at his comment, but then I realized he was right.
There was only one thing I could do in a situation like this. I couldn’t change anyone else’s behavior and I couldn’t understand what was going on, but what I could do was manage my own energy. So I stopped talking. I didn’t do it in an angry or sulky way. I just withdrew my energy. I still participated in what was going on in the most positive way I could, but I kept my energy to myself.
Once I’d done that things calmed down and it ultimately turned out to be an enjoyable and positive evening.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is simply to withdraw your energy. Stop talking or trying to explain or get people to see your side of things. Stop thinking about it and trying to figure out what’s going on or why people are behaving the way they are. Just focus on yourself and doing whatever you need to do to feel good.
When you withdraw your energy you stop feeding the situation. Where there’s no fuel, it simply dies down or people have to go somewhere else to find the stimulation they need for whatever is going on with them.
Action Step: Is there a situation you’re experiencing – perhaps an ongoing argument with someone, or any situation that won’t seem to resolve no matter how hard you try? Consider withdrawing your energy. Stop trying to fix it or understand it, and just withdraw. You can still take any action that you need to take – you’re not giving up, but you stop trying to get people to see your perspective. See what changes as a result.
Let this Unstoppable Affirmation support you on your journey:
I take care of my energy in all situations and it’s okay to withdraw my energy from situations I don’t understand or that don’t feel good.