When you don’t feel appreciated… – How often do you feel unappreciated? Perhaps you’re the one people rely on to get things done and you’re the first to step in to help when someone needs it, but you barely even receive an acknowledgement. This can leave you feeling frustrated and even resentful.
Today’s tip is inspired by one of my clients who was feeling exactly this way. She was visiting and staying with family and was doing her best to take care of them, as well as her husband and children. She was doing all the cooking and cleaning and making sure everyone was alright, but never received acknowledgement for anything she did. Instead, everyone seemed to just expect it. Sound familiar?
We talked about it and agreed on what she should do. When I spoke with her 2 weeks later she was amazed at what had happened. She told me that all sorts of people had been coming to her and telling her how great she is and how much they appreciated her. She had also received several invitations to social events and a couple of new opportunities had been presented to her – because of how much she was appreciated.
Do you want to know what she did? You won’t believe how simple it is.
She started appreciating herself. Instead of hoping others would recognize and appreciate her, I asked her to start appreciating herself, so that she didn’t need to receive it from others.
So this is what she did. She gave herself the appreciation that she needed and stopped expecting to receive it from anyone else.
When you give yourself what you need and stop expecting it to come from someone else, wonderful things happen.
Action Step: Try it and see for yourself. Don’t wait for someone else to give you what you need. Start appreciating yourself.
Here’s an affirmation that can help:
I release the need to receive approval or appreciation from others. I love and appreciate myself.
P.S. If you're intuitive, highly sensitive, and/or an empath, you may feel lack of appreciation even more deeply and you may find it difficult to appreciate yourself. In which case, I invite you to join the Highly Sensitive Professionals private Facebook Group so we can appreciate you. You'll meet other members who understand exactly how you feel and it costs nothing to join!