I was automatically drawn to HSPs and they seem to have been drawn to me – before I even knew there was such a term or such a thing. Until I discovered the concept of being Highly Sensitive I simply thought there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t like everyone else, and the same is true for most of my clients.
It’s difficult to be different when all you want to do is fit in and be like everyone else. But what I have learned is that if you want to succeed and enjoy life, you don’t want to fit in and be like everyone else. You want to know and accept who you are and BE that. No matter what others think or say. And the more you do that, the more accepted and respected you are.
Elaine Aron says in her book, The Highly Sensitive Person: “I’ve learned that in many cultures, sensitivity is highly esteemed. And while our own culture does not yet value sensitivity as much as it could – often making it harder, for example, for HSPs to find the right jobs and be treated respectfully in them – I am convinced that this will change, and that HSPs will exert increasing authority in our world, very comfortably.”
I agree with her and I think it is changing and will continue to change, but we have to help it change. It’s no good complaining that we don’t fit in and other people don’t understand us – we have to help them understand us because they have no frame of reference for what it’s like to be highly sensitive.
How do we do that? I think it begins with opening up the conversation. By making HSPness mainstream. It’s not about ‘us and them’ and it’s not about thinking we’re special or making ourselves stand out. It’s about learning how to integrate and just be ourselves.
Whether you are highly sensitive, intuitive, empathic – or none of those things the point is to know who you are and own it. If people don’t understand you, then help them understand you.
Since I am dedicated to opening up the conversation and helping everyone feel confident and embrace their uniqueness, I’d like to invite you to join the conversation. I’ve created 2 safe places where you can do just that. Where you can share your experiences, ask questions and receive any help you need, and be respected for who you are. I invite you to join me:
Facebook Live Broadcast: Success Strategies for Highly Sensitive People- every Friday at 9:30am Pacific join me and fellow HSP Lisa Powell for a discussion about what it means to be HSP. We share helpful tips, strategies and resources. Go to my Facebook Page to join and receive notifications of upcoming shows.
Private Facebook Group: Highly Sensitive Professionals. Whether you have your own business or work for somebody else, connect with other HSP professionals to learn what works and be inspired.
“I was once afraid of people saying ‘Who does she think she is?’ Now I have the courage to stand and say ‘This is who I am.’” – Oprah Winfrey