What tends to happen is that you begin doing something because you love it. You bring your own unique creativity to it and it’s enjoyable. But after some time you find that you’re not enjoying it any more. It’s become a chore – but something makes you feel that you have to continue doing it. Perhaps eventually you come to hate it so much that you have to walk away.
What happened? I think what often happens is that for a variety of reasons (such as other people’s expectations, the need to make money, or traditional beliefs about the way it ‘should’ be done) you can end up losing sight of what you loved about it in the beginning.
It’s like building a box around yourself by feeling you have to conform to expectations. This can lead to hating something that you initially loved because you’ve lost that uniqueness you brought to it in the beginning.
It’s so easy to get pulled into what others say you should do. It’s so easy to be influenced by others, comparing yourself to others and finding yourself wanting. This is how you lose yourself.
I have found this is particularly true for those who are highly sensitive because HSP’s tend to approach things in a different way from most other people and what makes sense and feels good to them may not feel right to others.
What if you didn’t have to conform? What if your uniqueness is exactly what’s needed? Other people may tell you that you can’t do something in the way that feels right to you, but how can they know? Instead of assuming they must be right consider trusting yourself and re-connecting with what feels right to you.
Action Step: If you’ve lost all sense of enjoyment with something that you used to love, and you feel you’ve lost some important aspect of who you really are, ask yourself why you wanted to do it in the beginning. See if you can reconnect with what drew you to it and why it felt good to you at first. Once you’ve re-connected, ask yourself what changes you might make now to ensure you maintain that connection and not allow yourself to be pulled into other people’s expectations.
Let this Unstoppable Affirmation support you on your journey:
I give myself permission to re-connect with what feels right for me and to do things my way. I release the need to lose myself in other people’s expectations.