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Unstoppable Energy Tip

7/4/2017

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When someone is mean to you – it says more about them than it does about you.
 
People treat others badly because of their own fears and insecurities. They (usually subconsciously) try to project these fears and insecurities onto someone else in an attempt to feel better.
 
Once you react to what they have said or done, you take on their pain and make it yours. They feel better for a little while and they can make you believe that the problem is all yours.
 
When someone is mean to you it can also trigger your own fears and insecurities, so that when you react it means that you not only have taken on their stuff, but your own stuff comes up as well.
 
So what do you do? First of all, when someone is being mean recognize that they are trying to project their fears onto you. Once you are aware of this you can choose not to take it on. For example, I was on a group committee call once when someone accused me of trying to bully her. In reality, she was the one trying to bully me to make me agree with what she wanted - so I said to her “as a coach I know you are aware that I am not responsible for how you feel and that what you are feeling has nothing to do with me.” I refused to take it on.
 
When someone feels good about themselves they have no need or desire to be mean to someone else. Understanding this is truly liberating.
 
Try this affirmation:
“I release the need to allow others to project their fears or insecurities onto me. I claim my power with love.”

6 Comments
Evelyn
7/6/2017 09:54:17 am

Linda, I love, Love, LOVE this! And wish I'd known it in the past when I experienced unkindnesses to me and once even a strong personal attack that left me shell shocked and devastated. Thank you for sharing your vast amount of knowledge and experience!

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Linda Binns link
7/6/2017 10:11:24 am

Evelyn, it was a long time before I understood this also and now I know it's one of the most important things to know. This came up on one of my calls recently, which is why I thought it was important to write about it. This awareness really is life-changing.

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Judi Jones
7/10/2017 10:46:32 am

Thank you Linda! This is a great reminder that we are not responsible for others reactions. When we practice kindness in the face of meanness, or any other negative response, it always works in our favor.

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Sue Macartney link
7/10/2017 04:15:36 pm

This one is so true Linda.. A reminder I needed to hear today. Thank you!
Hugs

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Megan link
7/27/2017 04:52:05 pm

I always love the way you state a profound message- so simply. Like you've summed up a whole book of wisdom in a few sentences. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!

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megan link
8/3/2017 12:44:41 pm

Commenting on Linda Binns Fear & Anxiety article.

I experienced this- this week, when my gutters desperately needed cleaning. My handyman had put me off for 2 months & monsoon rains are in full force. I live on a forested mountainside lot w/ no neighbors currently around. A 2 story drop from the back brought logical fear & anxiety over my safety.

I sat on the edge of the steeply pitched roof, looking at the rocks below. The pitch was not as steep as the ski slope I broke my leg on 18 months ago, but a stiffness was very evident. Anxiety was mounting. In came memories of falling from my attic 20 yrs ago when a similar ladder collapsed on me, raising my fear levels.

I remembered the victim thoughts that were running thru my mind before each previous accident. This was my opportunity to remedy old accident patterns. To be extra safe, I called on my Angel helpers to remove the fear, secure my balance & stability as I leaned over the edge of the roof. My focus was on all the positive results. I stopped looking at the rocks below & focused on the process I was completing.

My gutters are flowing freely and curiously I am finding greater flexibility in my knee.

The message is not to put our selves in harms way, but instead to MIND OUR THOUGHTS & call on spiritual helpers; especially when life presents needs to act in areas that present danger.

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