“When you follow the crowd you lose yourself, but when you follow your soul you will lose the crowd. Eventually your soul tribe will appear, but do not fear the process of solitude.”
I think it follows on nicely from last week’s tip on ‘starting over.’ It’s so easy to lose yourself when you follow the crowd but I think we often do follow the crowd because we’re afraid of being on our own.
When you do begin to focus on what’s right for you (perhaps by starting over) you do lose the crowd and that can be scary for many people. It does take time but eventually the right people do begin to appear in your life, but you do have to be comfortable with being on your own first I think.
How do you feel about solitude? Often people feel really uncomfortable with it, or when they are alone they feel they have to keep busy and feel guilty if they are not doing something. I have come to enjoy it and look forward to it and no longer feel I have to be busy. I think becoming comfortable with solitude is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It’s a real gift and it really helps you connect with yourself and what’s right for you.
If you live alone or you do spend a lot of time by yourself, are you comfortable with that or do you resent it? Of course it is possible to go too far the other way (particularly for introverts) so that you resist being around people and become isolated. That’s not good either. I think it’s all about how connected you are with yourself and how comfortable you are with who you are.
Action Step: If you are not doing so already, set aside some time (perhaps each week) to be by yourself. Give yourself permission to do nothing, even if it’s just for 10 or 20 minutes. Notice how you feel. If it makes you feel anxious or guilty, explore why that might be.
Let this Unstoppable Affirmation support you:
Spending time alone is a gift I give to myself. I am comfortable being alone with my thoughts.