Decide what you really want – last time I talked about how to be a conscious creator and stressed that the first and most important step is to know what you want. Yet this is a difficult step for many people. So here are some tips and strategies for helping you get to the heart of what you want:
 

• Ask yourself everyday “what do I really, really, really want?” You may even want to spend some time journaling on this question – just write whatever comes to you.
  

 

• Recognize that what you want can change. I think people often block themselves from identifying what they really want because they think once they decide then it’s set in stone. It’s important to recognize that what you want can change – and that’s okay. What you want today may not be exactly what you want next year or the year after. Allow yourself the flexibility for things to change. Your job is to know what you want in THIS moment.
  

 

• Practice with the little things. Sometimes it’s easier to start with little things before you move on to the big life decisions. If, for example, when someone asks you where you want to go for lunch, or what you want for your birthday, you find yourself saying “I don’t mind, whatever you want,” it’s time to change that. Start deciding what you want with small things to get in practice with connecting with what you want.
  

 

• Make a visual representation. Look through magazines and cut out pictures and words that really resonate with you and make you feel good. Then paste them onto some card to make a vision board, and put it where you can see it. This will give you some clues about what you are drawn to and what is meaningful to you.
  

 

• Make a list of what feels good to you. Start with the things you love to do, and the people you love to be around. Who and what energizes you? Get to know what feeds you energetically. Again, this will give you clues that can help you identify what you really want.
  

 

• Ask yourself why. When you identify something that you want, see if you can dig deeper and keep asking yourself why. Why do you want it? Why is this important to you? And why is that important? Digging deep in this way will help you truly connect with what’s most important for you.
  

 

• Relax. I think sometimes people are trying so hard to figure out what it is that they really want that they are actually blocking themselves from knowing. Relax and let it come to you, rather than trying to force it.
  

 
Try this daily affirmation: “I deserve to know and have what I really want and I am willing to allow myself to receive it. “
 

How to be a conscious creator – every day you are attracting people and situations into your life. Sometimes these are what you want, and sometimes they are not.

Of course, what you want is to attract more people and situations into your life that feel good and that you want, and the way to do that is to become more of a conscious creator.

Here are some steps for how to do that:

1. You must know what you want – if you’re not clear on what you want, you will continue to attract what you don’t want.
   
2. Put more energy and thought into what you do want than into what you don’t. Your mind will want to take you into what might happen or into what is happening and the fact that what you want seems so far away and perhaps even impossible. It’s your job to monitor your thoughts and change them when this happens.
   
3. Raise your vibration by focusing on things that are good and working well in your life, and on what you’re grateful for, and by practicing self-care.
   
4. Pay close attention to how you feel. Your body is sending you messages all the time through your Emotional Guidance System. When you feel good, you are on track, when you don’t feel good, there is something for you to look at. Don’t push away those feelings, pay attention to them, and learn from them so you can move on.
   
5. Trust yourself and your inner guidance.
   
6. Be willing to create what you want.
   
7. Allow yourself to have what you want.
   

“Deliberate creation is waking up in the morning and deliberately choosing a mood.” - Abraham

Use this affirmation every day until you experience a shift, or adjust the wording to make it your own:

“I now choose to see and experience myself as the conscious creator that I am. I allow myself to create and receive the most positive, uplifting and joyful experiences.”

When you have limiting beliefs – they lead to fear and anxiety, which holds you back and keep you stuck. Not everyone likes to admit it, but if you are feeling stuck at all, and you are not completely happy with where you are in life, then the chances are you have limiting beliefs that are leading to fear.

When I presented a workshop on how to transform limiting beliefs, these are just some of the limiting beliefs the participants shared with me:

"I can’t be happy with my life and myself today, just as things are.”

"If I ask for what I want or even admit what I want, it will be snatched away immediately.”

“I deserve to suffer. I deserve to stay small. I’m not good enough/competent enough and if I am and I shine my light fully it’ll make other people unhappy or they’ll hate me.”

"I think sometimes I still believe that I don't deserve the things I want. I don't really do much for myself and when I do it's really hard to justify."

“Going into this New Year I am feeling very fearful and stuck… I am feeling petrified and unable to find any passion in my life.”

If you want to make any progress, you must release the fear by addressing the belief. If you're ready, try this affirmation:
“I am now willing to release all limiting beliefs so I can claim my power and live my best life.”

And if, like me, you feel that it's time to finally let go of the fear so you can go from Stuck to Unstoppable, I invite you to join me on Thursday (tomorrow) at 3pm Pacific for the Freedom From Fear Master Class. You can participate by phone or on-line and if you can’t attend live, you’ll receive the recording when you register.

In this Master Class you will learn:

• What is fear really?
  
• How to stop fear controlling you and holding you back.
• What to do when fears come up.
• How to use fear to move you forward.
• The most powerful technique to achieve freedom from fear.

Those beliefs are not true. Don't let them hold you back any more.

When fear has too much power – you cannot relax and allow yourself to enjoy your life. You’re constantly thinking about what might (or might not) happen.

Here are some of the biggest fears people have – the fear of:

• Inadequacy
• Uncertainty
• Failure
• Success
• Rejection
• Missing out
• Change
• Losing control
• Being judged
• Making a mistake
• Something bad happening
• Getting hurt
• Criticism
• Poverty
• Old age (and death)
• Offending others
• Looking foolish

Most of us try to deal with fear by denying, avoiding, suppressing and hiding it. Yet it’s always there. It affects how you think, how you feel and how you act. And the more you try to deny or ignore it, the more power you give it.

Let’s make this the year that you overcome every fear that’s affecting you. All you have to do is make that decision – and here are two things that will help:

1. Use this affirmation to help you take action:
   “I am willing to be free of fear and anxiety. I am willing to release anything that stops me enjoying my life.”
   
2. Join me for the Freedom From Fear Master Class at 3pm Pacific on February 1st (there will be a recording if you can’t join live). It’s just $97. If you have a friend that wants to take the class with you, I’ll send you both a coupon code for $50 off.
   

“Fears are educated into us and can, if we wish, be educated out.” – Karl Augustus Menninger

Embrace the art of de-cluttering – if you want to give your energy a boost one of the easiest and most effective things you can do is to get rid of stuff. And the beginning of the year is the perfect time to do it.

Sometimes it may be difficult to get started, but usually people find that once they do start, it feels so good they want to let go of even more.

This applies not only to things in your home, but there are plenty of other places that can benefit from a good de-cluttering, such as:

• Your computer (old programs you don’t use, old emails and documents)
  
• Your office or workspace
• Your filing cabinet
• Your mind (old thoughts, ideas and habits that are not supporting you)
• The people you spend time with (anyone who drains your energy, makes you feel uncomfortable or is unsupportive)

De-cluttering frees up your energy and opens up the space for new and more positive energy to come in.

Here are couple of quotes to inspire you:

“Clutter is not just physical stuff, it’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits.” Eleanor Brown

“You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk.” Louise Smith

When something needs to change – it’s easy to procrastinate and put it off. You hope things will improve or things will change on their own, but the more time goes by, the more entrenched you become and the more difficult it becomes to change things.

This is why we stay in relationships that we know are not good for us, or in jobs that make us feel miserable, tolerate health issues that we don’t want, or continue to allow certain people to disrespect us or treat us badly.

A big part of the problem is knowing where to start. This is one of the questions I received recently: “Where do I start? I know what’s going on right now isn’t working but I don’t have any idea where to start. Can you help?”

If this situation applies to you or to someone you know, this short video can help you to get started.

Tony Robbins says: “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”

You don’t have to wait until the pain of staying the same is so great that you are forced to make a change. Be proactive and make the changes you know you need to make so you can live your best life.

When you need to master your mindset – when something seems difficult or even impossible to achieve, or you’re holding back because you think you can’t do something I’m sure you know that one of the keys to making progress is to change your thinking. We read and hear it everywhere – the fact that we need to change our thoughts and have a positive mindset.

But how do you accomplish that? When something is not working or you don’t know where to start, simply telling yourself that you can do something when you know you can’t doesn’t help.

For example, if you’re struggling to pay your bills, telling yourself that you’re wealthy and have plenty of money for everything you need is not necessarily helpful, because you know it’s not true.

I have discovered a technique that works for me, that is so simple, you won’t believe that it works. I invite you to try it though because it really does work.

This is the way that I change my mindset and create the mind-shift I need:

I ask myself the question “how can I do/achieve/overcome this in an easy, enjoyable and effective way?”

It’s important to use the three E’s (easy, enjoyable and effective) because if you just ask “how do I do/achieve/overcome this” all sorts of solutions can come to you, but they may in fact make you feel more overwhelmed.

If something is easy, you’ll feel better about doing it, particularly when you’ve been seeing it as difficult in the past. If it’s enjoyable, you’ll definitely change your mind about it, and if it’s effective – well, that will lead you to the results that you want.

That’s it. Simple isn’t it? Let the question sit in your mind throughout the day – and when you feel your mind going to the place of “it’s difficult or impossible” simply replace those thoughts with this question. Give it time and you will find that things open up for you so that this thing that felt so difficult before now seems easy, enjoyable and, most of all, it works.

I’d love to hear your experiences as you use this, so do let me know how you get on with it.

Create yourself…
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” — George Bernard Shaw

I found this quote recently and it resonates with me because of how empowering it is.  We hear a lot of messages about finding ourselves, but finding means searching and searching implies that something is lost, and you are not lost. Whereas creating means anything is possible, and it’s completely up to you what you create. Doesn’t that sound better? I think so, and I feel as though that has been an important lesson for me over the last few years.

As we end one year and move into the next I always think it’s the perfect time to consider what you have learned about yourself over the past year, and what you would like your focus to be for the upcoming year, so here are a few questions to get you thinking:

• What will your focus be for 2018?
  
• What do you want to release from your life?
• What will you create?
• Who do you want to be?

Thank you for being part of the Stuck to Unstoppable community and for your questions and comments throughout the year. I enjoy hearing from you.

Somebody told me earlier this year that I am “the world’s best-kept secret,” and I guess that’s no surprise really because as a highly sensitive introvert it’s not easy to step out in a big way. So my commitment for 2018 is to stop being a well-kept secret and to share what I know with more people who want to go from stuck to unstoppable, so throughout 2018 I’m going to be asking you to help me with that. Here are some ways you can help:

• As well as these Unstoppable Energy Tips I also share helpful information and inspiration on social media, so if you are on any of the social media platforms, please connect with me using the buttons above (if we’re not connected already).
  

• If I share something that really resonates with you, such as an Unstoppable Energy tip, or something on social media, please like, comment and share. This means more people will see it and you’ll be helping them to hear the messages they need to hear.
  

• When you comment on or share something that you like, this also helps me to know what type of content is the most beneficial, so I can offer more helpful information and programs.
  

• Finally, let me know how I can help you as we are all on this journey of creating ourselves and going from stuck to unstoppable together.

Be Unstoppable!

“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own.” — Bruce Lee

When change is coming – it can result in feelings of uncertainty, anxiety and even overwhelm, particularly when it’s change that you don’t really want.
 
I was asked if I would address a common situation for many people – empty nesting. Since this deals with the wider issue of what to do when change is being forced upon you, I created a short video with tips that can make the change/transition easier, more tolerable, and most productive.

Slow down and listen – to yourself. Have you ever found yourself wondering how to solve a problem, accomplish or change something and you turn it over and over in your head searching for a solution but nothing seems to come to you?
 
The more you think about it the more challenging and frustrating the situation becomes. You know there must be a solution but you cannot find it.
 
Consider that the answer may not be coming to you because you’re not slowing down enough to listen or tune into it. The more you think and worry and try to find the solution, the further away it seems.
 
This is why meditation is so helpful, because it’s an opportunity for your mind to slow down enough for answers and insights to come to you. If you have trouble meditating, however, you can find some other way to slow your mind down enough for the answers to emerge.
 
Journaling can be very helpful for this. When you regularly take time to write down everything that’s going through your mind, it helps your mind to calm down. Going for a walk, soaking in a hot bath, or exercising are also ways of slowing down your mind or channeling your mental energy into something else.
 
What are some ways you use to slow down so you can really listen to your wise inner voice (as opposed to the frantic mind chatter)? How can you incorporate more of this into your daily routine?
 
This affirmation will help:
“I am willing to slow down, relax and really listen to my inner guidance. I have all the support I need.”