I like this quote from Abraham:
“If you guide through anything other than your own example, it crosses over into the category of control. If you say, "This is what I've found that works for me, try it if you like." That's guidance. If you say, "This is what I've found works for me, and if you don't follow it, you're in trouble," that's control.”
So when you encounter someone who shares what has worked for them and they invite you to try it they are guiding. When you encounter someone who tells you this is the only thing that works, they are attempting to control you. It’s really helpful to know the difference.
Take your energy back by seeking out guides rather than controllers.