First, I identified the uncomfortable emotions I was feeling and wrote about them to see where they were coming from and what had been triggered. But I couldn’t seem to pinpoint it. The more I thought about it, the more I realized I wasn’t able to let it go.
Then it hit me – what if this wasn’t mine at all? What if I had taken on someone else’s energy and emotions? If you are a ‘helper’ personality or an empath it’s easy for this to happen. Once I had this thought I decided that if it wasn’t mine, then I wanted to return the energy to where it came from. Within just a few minutes I felt better.
It can be difficult enough to work through your own energy, emotions and old beliefs, and it’s impossible to work through someone else’s. So it’s important to learn to recognize when the discomfort you’re feeling is yours and when it’s from someone/somewhere else.
This can happen with our loved ones, when we would gladly take on their pain if it helps them feel better.
What we don’t always realize is that other people (even people we don’t know) can project their painful emotions onto us, and if we’re open and receptive enough, we can unknowingly take them on.
You can never help anyone else by taking away their painful emotions. You can help and support them through it, but you can’t take it away – this is a lesson I have learned the hard way. So any time you recognize that you’ve taken something like this on and made it yours, it’s important to let it go.
Any time I experience a difficult or painful emotion I work through it until I feel better, so whenever I am not able to work through something I realize that it’s not mine. This is a really helpful lesson to learn.
Action Step: Identify any discomfort or painful emotions you may be feeling that you have not been able to resolve. Ask yourself if you might have taken this on from someone else, and make the decision that you’d like to return it to where it came from. Notice if you start to feel better.
Let this affirmation support you on your journey:
I release the need to take on other people’s problems. I respect and love myself enough to recognize when something doesn’t serve me and I willingly let it go.